Domestic Violence & Behavior Research
Introduction
Thank you for visiting.
I'm Rev. Richard, C.B.A. (Certified Behavior Analyst). I research domestic violence issues, and abnormal personality disorders. I chose the direction of d.v. research to assist others exposed to "domestic violence" and the traumatic affect associated with its exposure.
Domestic violence, victimization, and the behaviors associate with are important areas of research. Those who survive abuse have greater difficulty maintaining intimate relationships or social relationships. They are more likely to enter into a relationship with an abusive partner, use alcohol or drugs, or find another method of coping for their decreased sense of self. Choosing relationships based on attraction, some likes and dislikes, and what we know is not quite what we need to know when seeking a partner or friendship. To often we enter relationships with a blind view. Just because two people can lay down together, doesn't mean they're compatiable for anything further.
Prior to working with behaviors associated with intimate partner relationships or domestic violence, a psychologist asked me, "What do you look for in a partner?" I answered, "Must be breathing." I laugh about it now, but then I never gave it much thought. Taking time to review our individual sense of self, and what we're looking for and could do without in a partner can make a world of difference.
Truth, Ideology, Perception
A majority of the "domestic violence" prevention community does not impliment effective programs. It's as if watching a dog chase it's tail. I research the underlining foundation of domestic violence in order to develop fact based, realistic solutions. The organizations I've reviewed begins with domestic violence as an act, ignoring changes in behaviors which led up to the act. When building a home, starting from the top and building down to the foundation isn't going to produce the desired outcome. It's the same in the context of domestic violence. Since every action produces a positive or negative reaction, it's important to find which behaviors are associated with domestic violence. We must focus on pin pointing the actual cause, and design methods of creating positive change. Jailing the accused, then placing them in "general" domestic violence classes, does not put a dent in this problem. Researching domestic violence I find more and more about our system that produces negative results.
The government should appoint those whose expertise are in areas of human behavior, to their domestic violence prevention offices. The misconseption is domesting violence being a series of learned behaviors. They are partially correct, but their is a wide range of factors being ignored. We must consider biological and nonbiological disorders, such as: bi-polar disorder (mainly biological and may be triggered by non-biological experiences) etc. Mental disorders which can be environmental, biological and/or emotionally created by circumstance, such as: ADHD (mainly biological, but research has proven some environmental factors), P.T.S.D. (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), antisocial personality disorder, narcasistic personality disorder, B.P.D. borderline personality disorder, etc. Some who have abnormal personality disorders are more likely to be agressive while in an intimate partner relationship.
As you'll see by my personal experience with domestic violence, the person I was with has borderline personality disorder. I talk about her changing from her normal self to being angry. This is called splitting. This is caused by an extreme amount of traumatic pain from past experiences. It's automatic, uncontrollable, and while in either the normal or angry side. A person with B.P.D. has no recollection of what happens on the opposite side of the split. A family lawyer in California who represents domestic violence cases said, "Borderline personality disorder is the number one cause for people ending up in family court."
Our government deployed domestic violence prevention: (1) Throw them in jail (2) Issue a restraining order (3) Offer a plea bargain (4) Charge a fine (5) Place them on offender lists (affects numerous areas of life) (6) Give them a criminal record (7) Force general dv classes on them, which doesn't address the cause (8) Hope for the best so they don't make additional trips through the system.
What's wrong with this picture? It doesn't work. In my state, the legislative branch of government stated they have no proof the of the current system working. That must be because it isn't. The whole system needs to be reconstructed and it needs to be done by those who have crediable expertise in each area known to be associated with domestic violence.
Domestic Violence Fact
Copied from the statistics:
Dr. Jennifer Langhinrichsen-Rohling of the University of South Alabama stated: "Every time we tried to say that women's intimate partner abuse is different than men's, the evidence did not support it."